I must admit to baiting my mother-in-law with Ephesians 5:22, “Wives submit to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” I would leave out verse 25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
These verses however are not meant to allow husbands to boss or dominate their wives, or even sons-in-law to be irritating. They are God’s word calling us husbands to lead as Christ does.
Christ is the ultimate leader/CEO and is not one who feathers His own nest and clings on to power to the detriment of others or to the organisation. He is a CEO who models how leaders should lead. By SERVING down, making work/life easier for those who are being led, whether in a marriage or a workplace. This sacrificial leadership builds up and develops the God-given strengths of those being led. It inspires trust and drives out fear, because people know that their leader is striving for the best for them.
In our case, we are blessed with a God whose wisdom we can completely trust. He knows what is best for us because He knows the end from the beginning. His wisdom is what we can trust in difficult times. He cannot lose his position as CEO. There is no board to report to. His power is complete. He will not compromise what is right to get a bonus or to add to His CV.
When we are empowered by who He is and how He leads, we can pass this blessing down the line. In the context of marriage, husbands may be the head of the home, but we must lead our families with godly leadership, not as the world leads. We must ensure we are serving our wives and families, giving up ourselves for the sake of those we are blessed to lead—encouraging, building up and loving them. Providing ourselves as a sacrifice for them.
Imagine how different things would be if this was how things were in our frontlines. Unfortunately it seems to be the opposite in our society. It seems that this world rewards those who put themselves first and walks over anyone else who is seen as an obstacle to their objectives.
If we are to make a change in our frontlines it means we will need to take the hits from what this world dishes up but then be the ones to pass on God’s love through forgiveness. Jesus did it, and as much as it hurts, it’s what we must do too.